Dr. Pamela Brewer Welcomes You to
M.E.S.H.
The safe place for you to learn about
ALL MATTERS AFFECTING YOUR M (MENTAL),
E (EMOTIONAL), AND S (SOCIAL) H (HEALTH)
The safe place for you to learn about ALL MATTERS AFFECTING YOUR (M) MENTAL, (E) EMOTIONAL, AND (S) SOCIAL (H) HEALTH.
Dr. Pamela Brewer Welcomes You to
M.E.S.H.
The safe place for you to learn about. ALL MATTERS AFFECTING YOUR (M) MENTAL, (E) EMOTIONAL, AND (S) SOCIAL (H) HEALTH.
What if the most toxic relationship in your life is the one you have with yourself?
The truth? We don’t always recognize when we’re the ones hurting ourselves. We can criticize ourselves, ignore our own needs, dismiss our feelings, and repeat patterns that leave us feeling stuck—often without realizing the impact on how we feel, the choices we make, and the relationships we have with others.
Are You in a Toxic Relationship With You? is a free guide designed to help you recognize the patterns that may be keeping you stuck and start changing the way you relate to yourself.
Inside, you’ll discover how to:
- Recognize the red flags in your relationship with yourself
- Identify patterns of self-criticism, self-doubt, and self-sabotage that may be affecting your choices and well-being
- Understand what you actually need instead of constantly overriding yourself
- Shift the way you talk to and treat yourself with greater compassion
- Take practical steps toward a healthier relationship with you
Dr. Pamela Brewer
What is M.E.S.H?
In a world where fact and fiction are often blurred, Dr. Brewer will spend 20 minutes each week hosting live and recorded conversations to help you gain insights and practical takeaways about what truly matters: you, your life, your decisions, and your relationship with yourself and others. In short: your world.
Listen to perspectives designed to support you, respect you, and honor what matters most to you.
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M.E.S.H. Episode #63
Hidden Stories of Incarceration, Identity, and Resilience
In this deeply moving episode of M.E.S.H., Dr. Pamela Brewer sits down with Amy Friedman, criminal justice advocate and co-founder of the Pathfinder Club network, to explore the emotional realities faced by teens impacted by incarceration and deportation. Through the lens of A Secret Chord, a powerful collection of youth writing and art, Amy shares how storytelling becomes more than expression—it becomes connection, healing, and a path toward self-understanding.
If you’ve ever felt like your story didn’t matter—or that no one would understand—it might resonate to hear how these young voices move from silence to strength. This conversation gently invites us to consider what happens when we create space to listen, and what shifts when people—especially young people—are finally heard.
M.E.S.H. Episode #62
Is Pre-Wedding Doubt Nerves or A Warning?
What happens when two people deeply in love discover they aren’t actually a good fit for marriage? In this edition of M.E.S.H., Dr. Pamela Brewer sits down with Shaina Goelman, LMFT, a licensed marriage and family therapist and clinical supervisor at Neuro Wellness Spa in Los Angeles, to explore the foundational work of premarital counseling. Together they unpack why love alone rarely sustains a marriage, how finances, children, and religion can become make-or-break conversations, and why the goal isn’t to avoid conflict but to build a relationship that can hold it. Shaina brings a refreshingly direct approach, and her insights land as much for the professionals supervising this work as for anyone thinking about joining their life with another person. If you’ve ever wondered whether nerves and genuine doubt feel different, or how to raise a hard truth without blowing up the room, this conversation offers a grounded, hopeful map.
M.E.S.H. Episode #61
Unmasking Narcissistic Abuse: Gaslighting, Trauma, and Recovery
In this week’s episode of M.E.S.H., host Dr. Pamela Brewer welcomes Carrie Ann Cleveland, Director of Cleveland Family Counseling and a licensed marriage and family therapist, to help in the understanding of gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, and their impacts on mental and emotional health. Carrie Ann decodes the difference between everyday disagreements and manipulative tactics, discusses the unpredictable dynamics inside relationships with narcissists, and provides listeners with practical advice and resources for navigating — and surviving — toxic interactions.
M.E.S.H. Episode #60
Hurt People Help People: Rethinking the Wounded Healer
What if the very wounds that drew you into helping others are also the ones quietly putting you at risk of burnout? On this thoughtful and deeply affirming episode of M.E.S.H., Dr. Pamela Brewer welcomes back Dr. Adam McCormick, professor of social work at St. Edward’s University and author of Healing the Helping Professional: The Unfinished Business of Childhood Trauma. 💛 Together they turn the familiar phrase “hurt people hurt people” on its head, exploring how so many caregivers, clinicians, and helpers were shaped by early adversity into people of remarkable kindness, compassion, and emotional intuition. Dr. McCormick shares his own story of growing up as his father’s “social worker,” unpacks why the same gifts that make us extraordinary at this work can leave us most vulnerable to compassion fatigue, and offers a hopeful path forward through self-awareness, supervision, and reconnecting with our authentic needs. This is an empowering conversation for anyone in a helping role who has ever wondered whether there’s room in this work for them, too.
M.E.S.H. Episode #59
Undaunted Trailblazers: The Men of Color Shaping Oral Health
M.E.S.H. Episode #58
Choice, Courage, Confidence: The Anatomy of Resilience
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